Dating Fun: Schedule a Date Like a Pro

Scheduling fun dates seems to have become increasingly more difficult for the women I coach on how to have dating fun. One of the recurring questions I am asked is “how do I get my dates scheduled with less hassle and more ease”? The key is to keep it simple. If a guy is more hesitant than you anticipated about scheduling a date, it is not necessarily a red flag. The man isn’t trying to offend or show disinterest in you, it’s just the way he has learned to operate with women. Your role is to smoothly break this hesitation – a little flirting should do the trick. Try to chat with the guy and remind him why he was interested in the first place. Here are 5 tips you can apply to have your man sitting next to you on your next fun date. 1. Be prepared. Go into your date “scheduling conversation” with a possible plan for a good date. Pick something safe (maybe not the opera or a museum) that is simple to plan and will be enjoyable for both of you. But, don’t throw the plan at him right away. Casually move the conversation to discussing possible dates. A guy that is really on the ball will, and hopefully should, have some ideas of his own to offer if he wants to see you. If he seems to be unable to offer a suggestion for a date though, you will already have a fun date suggestion in mind and can throw it into the conversation. Suggest the date your thinking of and see his reaction to it. If you picked something that is fun for both of you he should be willing to take part. 2. The sooner the better. Some guys have a hard time[…]

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Tips to Make Your First Date Great!

Great news! You asked out that interesting lady and she said YES to a first date. Now the question comes, “What to do for your date?” Having a successful first date is so important because if you bomb it on the first date, you don’t have the option of saying yes or no to date number two. Put yourself in the driver seat by setting up a fun-filled, unique experience that makes your date feel special. If your first date is a success, she will be waiting by the phone to hear from you again. Here are some tips for making that first date a success! Make it fun! Both parties bring some level of nervousness to a first date. The best way to kill the nerves is to have fun and start laughing. Use the conversations before the date to get an idea of the types of activities she likes – and then plan something that you both enjoy! Arrange a first date that will allow for conversation as well as getting a glimpse into her character. It is great to be able to not only learn about your date from what she tells you, but see how she acts in various situations. For example, one fun date idea is to go bowling. This will allow for time to talk as well as see how she deals with friendly competition. (Note to self: she can see how you deal with friendly competition as well.) Impress her with organizing a unique date idea instead of impressing her with money. The thought and effort of planning a fun date will score big points with the right lady. Showing your creativity and thoughtfulness will get you much more in the long run than trying to buy her affection. Be a boy scout[…]

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The Internet Dating Crash Course – Lesson 1 – Online Dating in Today’s World

I’m so glad you’ve given yourself this gift! In the next five days, you’re going to be hearing from me with some solid strategies on how to use online dating sites to finally achieve your dream of finding someone who meets all of your emotional and physical needs. You may have even tried a dating site before but your results flopped. That’s typical for people who don’t understand how it works – and like anything else that’s new to you – you have to educate yourself to get the best results! Most people simply fill in their name, maybe stick a picture on the site, and list “walks along the beach” as their favorite activity. That won’t get you anywhere! In this lesson, we’re going to cover the Internet dating scene and in the end I’ll give you a couple of little tasks you can tackle now or at the end of this course. (I recommend doing it now so that you can follow along as we go). Ready to start? What Is Online Dating? Online dating isn’t simply having a long distance relationship on the ‘net. Many people do meet that way – maybe in a music or TV fan chat room (not necessarily a dating site) – but it’s also meant as a bridge to connect local individuals to one another if a match within the system is found. The online dating scene can be a little intimidating. There are so many people there – some seem to be absolute pros at maneuvering the dating sites and some look like they put up a shell of a profile page and ran away scared. Some online dating sites connect groups of individuals to communicate with one another for friendships. It’s more than just a one on one romantic connection[…]

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The Internet Dating Crash Course – Lesson 5 – Turning an Online Dating Match Into an Offline Date!

Online dating is scary for some people who are shy or new to the dating scene after a long time away from it. And eventually, there comes a time when communicating online isn’t enough – and the other person (or you) wants to meet offline. You want it to go smoothly, but there are some things you can do to ensure safety, a good time, and a positive experience. How Soon Should You Meet Offline? Everyone will have a different comfort level when it comes to moving from online chat or email to an in-person date. And the man or woman you’re communicating with could be moving at a must faster or slower speed than you want them to. You’ll need to be patient with this (and make sure they’re patient with you) because pressuring someone into a meeting is never a good thing. It will probably end badly. Some people are going to find a match and immediately want to meet up for a casual, light date to talk in person and see if there’s a connection there. Others will want to develop a deep connection before they plan to meet in person. Have you ever seen the movie, “You’ve Got Mail” with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan? They were chatting online and dragging out the in person meeting until there were substantial feelings involved. And this can happen to you, too. Some people (especially those new to online dating) may think that it’s impossible to develop true feelings for someone you’ve never met. But many people begin sharing things and forming a strong bond with each other just through text, and possibly phone conversations. Do you want to just meet quickly (kind of like tearing off a band-aid), or give yourself time to see if an in-person meeting[…]

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Dating on the Internet – Is It Safe?

Online dating safety is an issue that comes up very often when people are asked their opinion about the pros and cons of using Internet dating sites to find a partner. Dating on the Internet has been around for many years now, yet some people are still worried about their safety when thinking about dating on the Internet. But is there any need to be more worried about your safety with online dating than with dating in the “real world”? Moreover, there are different kinds of “safety” – physical, emotional and identity. Let’s look at each of these in turn as they relate to online dating. Internet Dating Safety – Physical Aspects Both men and women can be victims of physical attacks by people they hook up with on dating sites, but in reality females are much more likely to be on the receiving end. On the other hand, there are far more cases of women being physically assaulted and raped by complete strangers on the street, or by men they meet in bars and other pick up joints, than there are victims of Internet dating perpetrators. Statistically, women will fare much better – at least in terms of their physical safety – by choosing Internet dating as their option to find a man. Why? Because women have much a much greater opportunity to screen their potential dates even before meeting them in real life. Of course, you must never judge a book by its cover, but by asking lots and lots of questions about a potential online dating partner, you will be able to get a better understanding of their psyche, and especially their attitude towards members of the opposite sex. If you go with one of those dating agencies that take a pro-active role by using scientific methods[…]

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