Dating Fun: Schedule a Date Like a Pro

Scheduling fun dates seems to have become increasingly more difficult for the women I coach on how to have dating fun. One of the recurring questions I am asked is “how do I get my dates scheduled with less hassle and more ease”?

The key is to keep it simple. If a guy is more hesitant than you anticipated about scheduling a date, it is not necessarily a red flag. The man isn’t trying to offend or show disinterest in you, it’s just the way he has learned to operate with women. Your role is to smoothly break this hesitation – a little flirting should do the trick. Try to chat with the guy and remind him why he was interested in the first place. Here are 5 tips you can apply to have your man sitting next to you on your next fun date.

1. Be prepared. Go into your date “scheduling conversation” with a possible plan for a good date. Pick something safe (maybe not the opera or a museum) that is simple to plan and will be enjoyable for both of you. But, don’t throw the plan at him right away. Casually move the conversation to discussing possible dates. A guy that is really on the ball will, and hopefully should, have some ideas of his own to offer if he wants to see you. If he seems to be unable to offer a suggestion for a date though, you will already have a fun date suggestion in mind and can throw it into the conversation. Suggest the date your thinking of and see his reaction to it. If you picked something that is fun for both of you he should be willing to take part.

2. The sooner the better. Some guys have a hard time scheduling dates too far out in advance. While he may agree to that night end of next week, he probably has no idea if he has any plans on that night. Try to schedule a date ideally within 3-5 days. Involve the man in the date scheduling. Be sure to ask for his input, but just make sure that by the end of your conversation that you actually have a date on your calendar that you are confident will work out. You shouldn’t be saying “I’ll see you on January 1st”, rather “I’ll see you this Wednesday night”.

3. Use your words wisely. The scheduling of your dates is unlikely to be done in person. Instead the interaction these days usually occurs via voice and/or text. This means that the only things connecting you and the man are the words you choose to speak. Be flirty, yet firm. Remind him how interested he is in you. Enamor him with a sprinkle of light conversation before getting into the details of scheduling. The flirting part shouldn’t be too tough, but it’s important to be firm in the aspect of scheduling so it doesn’t get into a long negotiation. Discuss your options of possible things to do and when to do them, and then reach a conclusion. A conclusion about the upcoming date is imperative to it actually happening. Remember, don’t let the conversation end before restating the date information (day of the week, time, place). If he truly won’t commit to moving your interaction forward, then you might want to consider it a red (or at minimum) a yellow flag.

4. Leverage your phone. You should have at least one phone conversation before your date. Texting and emailing can take you so far, but it is important to actually speak and to establish a true connection. So whether the phone call is partly to schedule the date or it comes after the initial scheduling, always try to end your conversation with the date info for clarity.

5. The plus side of texting. Try to keep texting on the flirty side of the spectrum by having light and easygoing conversations. A simple text of “Are you doing anything tomorrow night?” could be all you need to get things started. Or text maybe a couple of hours before you are scheduled to meet just to confirm you are on your way/on time (something simple and flirty like “life is good from my end and I’m on time- c u soon”. That way if any issues do come up at the last minute, there is a means of open communication to deal with them. In today’s day and age, everyone relies on their phone!

The best advice for getting a man to be more committed to dating and not being hesitant to schedule dates is to actually have fun on your dates. So don’t fret if you have a bit of back and forth in scheduling a date. If you and your man have a great time, there’s a good chance both of you will want to try it again. Because you are so much fun, he will want to spend more time with you.

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Tips to Make Your First Date Great!

Great news! You asked out that interesting lady and she said YES to a first date. Now the question comes, “What to do for your date?” Having a successful first date is so important because if you bomb it on the first date, you don’t have the option of saying yes or no to date number two. Put yourself in the driver seat by setting up a fun-filled, unique experience that makes your date feel special. If your first date is a success, she will be waiting by the phone to hear from you again. Here are some tips for making that first date a success!

    1. Make it fun! Both parties bring some level of nervousness to a first date. The best way to kill the nerves is to have fun and start laughing. Use the conversations before the date to get an idea of the types of activities she likes – and then plan something that you both enjoy!
    1. Arrange a first date that will allow for conversation as well as getting a glimpse into her character. It is great to be able to not only learn about your date from what she tells you, but see how she acts in various situations. For example, one fun date idea is to go bowling. This will allow for time to talk as well as see how she deals with friendly competition. (Note to self: she can see how you deal with friendly competition as well.)
    1. Impress her with organizing a unique date idea instead of impressing her with money. The thought and effort of planning a fun date will score big points with the right lady. Showing your creativity and thoughtfulness will get you much more in the long run than trying to buy her affection.
    1. Be a boy scout and come prepared with some “First Date Interview Questions.” Have some open-ended questions ready to be able to ask your date, such as, “So, what brought you to ‘Enter your city name here’?” or “Tell me about your favorite trip.” Another good one is, “What is your biggest accomplishment in life and why?” Asking open-ended questions are a great way to help move the conversation along as well as give you more insight to this woman.
  1. Be ready to listen. As the saying goes, we have two ears and one mouth. Focus on using them proportionally. A great way to make your date feel special and leave her wanting to see you again is to actually listen to what she has to say. Show her you are listening by asking clarifying questions to the story she is telling you.

If you are still a bit unsure of how to set-up a great date, I have a great tool to help you plan and succeed on your first date. Click here to get your First Date Tool. This resource gives you 101 fun date ideas as well as more tips to make your first date a success.

Tracy Fagan has invested her efforts in making the dating journey a fun, interesting and fruitful experience. To find many more tips and resources to make dating and relationships fun and meaningful, visit [http://www.yourdatingjourney.com]

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The Internet Dating Crash Course – Lesson 1 – Online Dating in Today’s World

I’m so glad you’ve given yourself this gift!

In the next five days, you’re going to be hearing from me with some solid strategies on how to use online dating sites to finally achieve your dream of finding someone who meets all of your emotional and physical needs.

You may have even tried a dating site before but your results flopped. That’s typical for people who don’t understand how it works – and like anything else that’s new to you – you have to educate yourself to get the best results!

Most people simply fill in their name, maybe stick a picture on the site, and list “walks along the beach” as their favorite activity.

That won’t get you anywhere!

In this lesson, we’re going to cover the Internet dating scene and in the end I’ll give you a couple of little tasks you can tackle now or at the end of this course. (I recommend doing it now so that you can follow along as we go).

Ready to start?

What Is Online Dating?

Online dating isn’t simply having a long distance relationship on the ‘net. Many people do meet that way – maybe in a music or TV fan chat room (not necessarily a dating site) – but it’s also meant as a bridge to connect local individuals to one another if a match within the system is found.

The online dating scene can be a little intimidating.

There are so many people there – some seem to be absolute pros at maneuvering the dating sites and some look like they put up a shell of a profile page and ran away scared.

Some online dating sites connect groups of individuals to communicate with one another for friendships. It’s more than just a one on one romantic connection – many solid friendships are made on Internet dating sites today!

You might find a friend to have an occasional lunch with, or someone worthy of proposal – and everything in between.

The online dating services doesn’t hand pick (by a human reviewer) the perfect person for you. It’s not a match-making service in that regard.

What it is, is a place where you can make connections via the computer. And sometimes that evolves into a phone or in-person meeting if everything goes smoothly initially.

Most online dating sites have some semblance of free service available, but you really can’t participate to any real degree unless you give it a test drive and become an official member.

What information are they going to want to know? Well here’s a sample list – but keep in mind that you often retain control over what you share and what details you choose to give out.

• Name
• Gender
• Age
• Location
• Hobbies
• Salary
• Body type
• Race

Many people leave out certain profile items that they don’t want to disclose – like salary, for example. Or maybe body shape – those are all optional for you to fill in on most sites.

The reason these criteria are listed is so that the computer system can easily match up people who fit your needs and the needs of others.

For example, perhaps your age bracket is strictly listed as hoping to meet someone who is 18-25. If you’ve chosen this, then it wouldn’t present you with anyone over age 25.

Each site allows you to include a profile picture.

Some people stress unnecessarily about this. Online dating has become a spot for people to weed out the individuals whose entire personalities don’t match theirs – and believe it or not, looks are often not the #1 priority!

An online dating site doesn’t just have profiles with an email contact system, either. It includes features members can use like chat rooms, web cam hang outs, and even message boards where you can post questions and help others who are just learning to navigate the process of online dating.

The free services most sites allow are just enough of a tease to entice you to sign up. For example, you can post a profile. But when someone contacts you on the site, you have to sign up as a member to able to read or reply to the message.

Decide ahead of time what type of online dating site you’re seeking. Do you want one that encompasses all levels of connections – from friendships to lifetime partners? Or are you looking for a fast hookup with someone and don’t care if it develops into something more?

The Steps You’ll Take to Use an Official Online Dating Site

I know how awful it is to spend every night sitting there alone, wishing you had someone to talk to. Once you get past the party scene, it isn’t fun to have to go to a bar and hang out in order to meet someone single, either!

Workplaces are good for meeting people – but not always – and you really can’t rely on friends and family to set you up with blind dates time and time again. So that leaves online dating sites as the most reliable method for helping you make the most important connection of your life.

Not All Dating Sites Are Created Equally

Never, ever just join a dating site that you see in some random ad. You want honest recommendations. Sites are creates differently – and some have more stable reputations than others. You want real reviews by members who have had a great experience using the site.

What Does Online Dating Cost?

Initially, you can sign up as a free user of the Internet dating site. It won’t open you up to all of the features, but it’ll get you closer to your goals.

My advice is that you sign up as a free member at several sites and then decide which one seems like the kind of dating site you’d most prefer to use. As a free user, you might be able to browse profiles, but not initiate contact, or it might be more restrictive to seeing profile pictures only.

How Is a Connection Made to Someone?

The dating sites offer a two-way street. You can contact others, or wait to be contacted by someone else! The system will do its part by running your interests and preferences through the system, sending you matches it finds in the process.

Once you get the list, you can go through and whittle down the list to those you feel have potential. Then you might send out an introductory email to see if there’s a mutual interest.

What’s the Best Way to Make a Profile?

Our next lesson is going to really teach you how to make an amazing profile, but for now, you can sign up for a free profile on a few sites and add your picture and basic information.

It’s not advisable to be extremely detailed with your profile information until you’re sure this is someone who you want to know. Feel free to list hobbies and interests, because this is where initial connections are made.

Tasks for You to Accomplish Until Tomorrow’s Lesson:

I want you to take out a piece of paper (or do this on your computer). Write down the following and answer the questions:

1. By joining an online dating site, I hope to _____________________________

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2. For communication with others, I want to use the following (check all that apply): ___ Email ___ Site/Online Chat ___ Phone ___ Web Cam Hang Out ___ In person meeting

3. I want to find (check all that applies): ___ friendship ___ companionship ___ long term relationship

Those three questions will help you determine a path for your online dating journey so that you stick to meeting your goals and don’t get sidetracked with something you really don’t want for yourself.

Find the other lessons of this course by going to http://www.weneedmorelove.com

S. Brooks is a specialized researcher focusing on providing valuable information & solutions for every day issues

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The Internet Dating Crash Course – Lesson 5 – Turning an Online Dating Match Into an Offline Date!

Online dating is scary for some people who are shy or new to the dating scene after a long time away from it. And eventually, there comes a time when communicating online isn’t enough – and the other person (or you) wants to meet offline. You want it to go smoothly, but there are some things you can do to ensure safety, a good time, and a positive experience.

How Soon Should You Meet Offline?

Everyone will have a different comfort level when it comes to moving from online chat or email to an in-person date. And the man or woman you’re communicating with could be moving at a must faster or slower speed than you want them to.

You’ll need to be patient with this (and make sure they’re patient with you) because pressuring someone into a meeting is never a good thing. It will probably end badly.

Some people are going to find a match and immediately want to meet up for a casual, light date to talk in person and see if there’s a connection there.

Others will want to develop a deep connection before they plan to meet in person. Have you ever seen the movie, “You’ve Got Mail” with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan?

They were chatting online and dragging out the in person meeting until there were substantial feelings involved. And this can happen to you, too.

Some people (especially those new to online dating) may think that it’s impossible to develop true feelings for someone you’ve never met. But many people begin sharing things and forming a strong bond with each other just through text, and possibly phone conversations.

Do you want to just meet quickly (kind of like tearing off a band-aid), or give yourself time to see if an in-person meeting will even be worth it.

Be honest with the person you’re communicating with. Don’t ridicule them if they’re shy about meeting. At the same time, try to analyze the situation to see if perhaps you’re being played (maybe someone’s married and just messing around online with no intention of pursuing a romantic relationship).

When the time comes that you feel right about initiating in person communication, just ask casually, like this:

“Hey it would be great if we could meet up sometimes offline – are you cool with that, or do you prefer to take a little more time?”

Don’t start demanding things, like, “I MUST meet you in person by he end of the week – I can’t STAND being away from you any longer.”

This can be creepy and startling to the other person.

Safety Is Your #1 Priority – for Men and Women!

When you do decide to meet off of the site, never ever have the person come to your home to meet you.

Now you men may be reading this and laughing, but don’t discount the fact that there are women in the world who will drug your drink and steal your possessions.

So meet in a public place, like a restaurant or high traffic public park or other destination. It’s not just your address that you don’t want to give out, either. Don’t meet them at their home – even if their first date idea involves cooking for you.

Make sure someone knows where you’re going and who you’re meeting (from which online dating site). If you want to, jot a note down next to your computer so that if anything did happen, police would know where to look.

Never get intoxicated during your first date with the person you’re meeting. Keep an eye on your drink – don’t leave it to go to the bathroom. If you do, have the bartender get you a new one.

Also take your purse or wallet with you if you go anywhere so that your date can’t look up your driver’s license address or take things from you without you knowing about it.

After the date, don’t let them drive you home – even if it went well. You still don’t know this person well enough to be showing them your home address, so take a cab or drive yourself and make sure you aren’t being followed.

Some of these tips may seem a bit paranoid, but it’s better to be overly cautious than take a risk. The people on the dating site know you’re single – and you don’t want to dangle yourself out there like bait if there happens to be a savvy shark in the dating waters, do you?

The most important thing is to trust your intuition. If you feel creepy about this person, end the date right then and there. Don’t prolong it and wait to see if something might happen.

Perfect First Date Ideas

The first date is going to depend on the two of you to a big degree. There is no “one size fits all.” There are some common places you can choose for a first date, but there are also some neat special first date ideas that could suit your style even more!

If you want to meet for a quick date, then try your local coffee shop. Some people like to meet for a Frappachino and to have a little discussion over iced coffee before moving on to a date that lasts longer than 30 minutes.

You may even want to see if your local Barnes and Noble has a Starbucks in it so that you can meet to find a new book and have something to discuss on your date, too!

If you’re already determined to have a romantic date, then by all means go all out with a romantic restaurant meal. Italian restaurants often have a nice ambiance.

If you’d like to keep conversation to a minimum, try going to see a movie together! This way you’ll meet and chat for a little before it starts, and then get to chat a little when it’s over (maybe even go for ice cream afterward if you want the conversation to continue).

If you’re both the outdoorsy type, then meet at a local outdoor activity like a public park or nature center. See if your area has a botanic garden for a beautiful setting.

If the arts are a big part of your lives, check out the museum showings. Or pick up a free magazine usually found in your grocery store entrance, to see what music activities are happening that week.

If you both have dogs, see if there’s a dog park in your area. If there’s not, just plan to take your pets to a park and meet up. Make sure you feel safe having your dog around their dog, if either happens to be an aggressive animal.

If you each have friends who know about the meeting, why not suggest a double date? Or even a platonic group setting? You don’t want too many people there who might start having fun with your situation. Just one wingman each would do the trick is anxiety levels are high.

If you’re both daredevils, see if you can schedule something amazing – like a hot air balloon ride, rock climbing, or even a jump out of an airplane!

Breaking the Ice When Conversation Stalls

Now sometimes there can be a drawback to waiting too long to meet your online dating match in person. If you keep the conversation going via chat and phone for too many weeks or months, you wind up with little to say in person when you finally do have that first date!

Some of the dates will automatically inspire conversation. For example, if you go to a museum together, you can provide your commentary on the exhibit pieces you’re seeing.

Make sure you don’t make all of the conversation about you. You show someone you care by asking about them, too. But don’t take it too personally if they don’t extend the same courtesy.

Some people are just so nervous on a first date that they blurt out things without thinking.

You can ask questions about the other person – their favorite things, for example. But don’t get too intimate and ask something embarrassing or something they may want to keep private.

This may be a time when you’re sizing up a future together, but you don’t want to interrogate them with questions like, “How many kids do you want? What kind of money do you make? Do you want to meet my parents?”

It’s okay to be nervous (and to admit that) but just try to take a deep breath and maintain that happy balance between being too shy and reserved and overly hyper and demanding.

Ending the First Date and Deciding If There Will Be a Second

Ending a first date should never be decided ahead of time. You never want to say that you have to be home by 10 because that prevents you from leaving at 9 if you want to.

Don’t have a friend text you with an emergency or tell them you’re going to the restroom, only to disappear. Be a grown up and respectful about it and just kindly say something like, “I don’t know if it’s just me, but I’m feeling like maybe we ought to go ahead and say goodbye tonight because it appears we aren’t a great match.”

When you meet your online dating contacts, some will be absolutely fantastic matches, some will be nightmares, and some in between. You will have an easy time deciding about the horror stories, but if the date was just “okay,” you’ll need to decide If there should be another on the horizon.

You may want to give it one more shot if you feel there could be something there. First dates are made fun of because they’re often awkward, so a second attempt could prove more fruitful.

On the other hand, if there’s no spark and you feel like it would be pointless, don’t drag it out and make them suffer.

Online dating is a wonderful thing that connects people all over the world to like-minded individuals. Like offline dating, you have to try new things and step out of your comfort zone, but it puts in place a barrier of protection for you initially that the offline world can’t provide and allows you to analyze a prospective partner based on more than looks!

If you’ve finished this course and haven’t yet accomplished the tasks, go to the sites mentioned in lesson 2, choose the one that best suits your needs and get signed up for a free trial today:

For the other lessons of this course please go to: http://www.weneedmorelove.com

S. Brooks is a specialized researcher focusing on providing valuable information & solutions for every day issues

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Dating on the Internet – Is It Safe?

Online dating safety is an issue that comes up very often when people are asked their opinion about the pros and cons of using Internet dating sites to find a partner.

Dating on the Internet has been around for many years now, yet some people are still worried about their safety when thinking about dating on the Internet. But is there any need to be more worried about your safety with online dating than with dating in the “real world”?

Moreover, there are different kinds of “safety” – physical, emotional and identity. Let’s look at each of these in turn as they relate to online dating.

Internet Dating Safety – Physical Aspects

Both men and women can be victims of physical attacks by people they hook up with on dating sites, but in reality females are much more likely to be on the receiving end. On the other hand, there are far more cases of women being physically assaulted and raped by complete strangers on the street, or by men they meet in bars and other pick up joints, than there are victims of Internet dating perpetrators. Statistically, women will fare much better – at least in terms of their physical safety – by choosing Internet dating as their option to find a man.

Why?

Because women have much a much greater opportunity to screen their potential dates even before meeting them in real life. Of course, you must never judge a book by its cover, but by asking lots and lots of questions about a potential online dating partner, you will be able to get a better understanding of their psyche, and especially their attitude towards members of the opposite sex.

If you go with one of those dating agencies that take a pro-active role by using scientific methods to “match make”, then the chances are, perhaps, even better that you will end up with a “safe” dating partner.

Internet Dating Safety – Emotions

This one applies equally to men and women. Be careful about falling in love too quickly and for the wrong reasons, otherwise your emotional safety will be put at great risk. Many people new to online dating are filled with excitement, and are more eager to jump into a relationship quickly than those who have been playing the dating game for a while. An important piece of online dating advice here is: be patient! Take your time and look at many different profiles before you go on any real-world dates. This is especially true for women and men that have not been in a romantic or sexual relationship for months or years.

Also, beware of the online dating “sharks” or “players”. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, just keep in mind at all times that there are many men and women who use Internet dating websites merely as an avenue to try and get together with as many people as possible – some even with dishonest motives such as seeking out wealthy partners to scam. These are the minority, however, as most folks who use online dating services do the right thing.

Internet Dating Safety – Identity

Look out for the security of your identity at all times. Limit the amount of personal information you put up about yourself, as there are many who use online dating sites for purposes other than those for which they were created. In other words, identity thieves who pick up all sorts of personal information from dating sites to use for their own dishonest gain. Just exercise common sense here, though, and you should not fall victim to these guys.

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